HomeWisdomATTITUDES YOU NEED TO...

ATTITUDES YOU NEED TO STOP WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED OR IN A RELATIONSHIP:…*

*ATTITUDES YOU NEED TO STOP WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED OR IN A RELATIONSHIP:…*

 

When you are married or in a relationship, consider letting go of these attitudes:

 

1. Possessiveness: Trust and respect boundaries between you and your spouse.

 

2. Competition: Focus on teamwork and mutual support. No need for competitive spirit.

 

3. Criticism: Practice constructive feedback and empathy not destructive tendencies.

 

4. Comparison: Appreciate your unique relationship. Every relationship has its unique features you must study as a matter of importance to navigate the murky water therein.

 

5. Selfishness: Cultivate the habit of compromising some of your hard stance and show more understanding than creating misunderstanding.

 

6. Dishonesty: Foster transparency and open communication. Shun every form of dishonest act.

 

7. Pride: Embrace humility and willingness to apologize. You are not too big to say sorry even if the other person doesn’t feel the need to.

 

8. Unforgiveness: Practice forgiveness and letting go. Unforgiveness is like a burning coal that can burn even the standbys.

 

9. Lack of accountability: Take responsibility for actions. Don’t try to always be right. Show some level of responsibility and leadership.

 

10. Emotional unavailability: Prioritize emotional intimacy. It’s very crucial to see the need of your spouse and make effort to fill it than exploit it.

 

11. Disrespect: Treat each other with kindness and respect. It’s very nasty to disrespect whom you claimed to love.

 

12. Conditional love: Love unconditionally. True love is unconditional and must be practised with all sense of responsibility and trust.

 

13. Unrealistic expectations: Communicate and set realistic goals. Stop shoring up unrealistic expectations but ask God for mercies to live one day at a time.

 

14. Defensiveness: Listen actively and respond thoughtfully. See youeself as each other and you’ll learn to love and respect.

 

15. Passive-aggressiveness: Address issues directly. Avoid indirect throwing up of issues that can be settled without rancour.

 

16. Blame-shifting: Take ownership of mistakes. We are all prone to make mistakes. Just accept your humanity and move on.

 

17. Emotional manipulation: Communicate openly and honestly. Stop trying to manipulate each other no matter what. You are not a devil!

 

18. Control: Respect each other’s autonomy. See yourselves as one yet don’t forget you are two unique persons coming together to form a unique unit.

 

3. Resentment: Address issues before they escalate. No need prolonging or delaying issues. Handle it and let go.

 

4. Lack of gratitude: Cultivate appreciation. Oftentimes we take things for granted. Learn to show gratitude in situations.

 

Replacing these attitudes with positive ones can strengthen your marriage.

 

Positive attitudes to cultivate:

 

1. Empathy and understanding

2. Open communication

3. Mutual respect

4. Trust and loyalty

5. Compromise and flexibility

6. Forgiveness and letting go

7. Emotional intelligence

8. Teamwork and cooperation

9. Gratitude and appreciation

10. Unconditional love

 

Comrade AniekanAbasi Cares ✍️

- A word from our sponsors -

Most Popular

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

More from Author

BENEFITS OF BEING A GOOD HUSBAND.

BENEFITS OF BEING A GOOD HUSBAND.   Being a good man has numerous...

Breaking News: Concerned Igede Elders Throw Weight Behind Apa State, Reject Ogoja Option

Breaking News: Concerned Igede Elders Throw Weight Behind Apa State, Reject...

- A word from our sponsors -

Read Now

AGATU LG CHAIRMAN HON. MELVIN JAMES EJEH STRONGLY CONDEMNS THE BARBARIC KILLING OF FOUR INDIVIDUALS IN EGWUMA AND OGBAI COMMUNITIES

AGATU LG CHAIRMAN HON. MELVIN JAMES EJEH STRONGLY CONDEMNS THE BARBARIC KILLING OF FOUR INDIVIDUALS IN EGWUMA AND OGBAI COMMUNITIES   Wednesday, August 20, 2025   The Executive Chairman of Agatu Local Government Council, Hon. James Melvin Ejeh, has expressed profound outrage over the gruesome murder of four individuals in the...

OJEMA CONDEMNS GRUESOME MURDER OF 4 INHABITANTS OF AGATU BY SUSPECTED FULANI MILITIA Charges Security Agencies to redouble their efforts

OJEMA CONDEMNS GRUESOME MURDER OF 4 INHABITANTS OF AGATU BY SUSPECTED FULANI MILITIA Charges Security Agencies to redouble their efforts   The Member representing Apa/Agatu Federal Constituency and Chairman, House of Reps Committee on National Inland Waterways, Chief. Hon. Pst Ojotu Ojema, FESMI, has condemned in strong terms the gruesome...

BENEFITS OF BEING A GOOD HUSBAND.

BENEFITS OF BEING A GOOD HUSBAND.   Being a good man has numerous benefits, both for the individual and for those around them.   These benefits range from improved mental and physical health to stronger relationships and a more positive impact on society.   Ultimately, cultivating positive qualities like kindness, integrity, and emotional...

Breaking News: Concerned Igede Elders Throw Weight Behind Apa State, Reject Ogoja Option

Breaking News: Concerned Igede Elders Throw Weight Behind Apa State, Reject Ogoja Option   The Concerned Igede Elders have categorically rejected the idea of Igede people joining Ogoja State, instead throwing their weight behind the creation of Apa State. According to Prof. John Enyi, a prominent elder from Igede...

MOTHER, SON, TWO OTHERS MURDERED IN BENUE FRESH ATTACK.

MOTHER, SON, TWO OTHERS MURDERED IN BENUE FRESH ATTACK.   Suspected armed herders have killed a woman, her son, and two others in two communities of Agatu Local Government Area of Benue State.   The incident, according to locals, happened on Wednesday at Egwuma and Ogbai communities in the local government.   Two...

Rebuilding Trust: How to Reform Nigeria’s Electoral System* By Monday Mariam Odufah

*Rebuilding Trust: How to Reform Nigeria's Electoral System* By Monday Mariam Odufah   Nigeria's electoral system has faced numerous challenges, eroding public trust and undermining the country's democratic progress. To address these issues, comprehensive reforms are necessary. Here are key areas to focus on:   Attitudinal Change among Politicians A fundamental shift in...

FECS ATBU Holds Powerful Exam Success Prayer Meeting

FECS ATBU Holds Powerful Exam Success Prayer Meeting By. Adaogah Ezekiel Media Enthusiastic The Fellowship of Environmental Christian Students (FECS) at Abubakar Tafawa Balewa University (ATBU) Bauchi, recently held a dynamic Exam Success Prayer meeting centered on the theme: *"The Cry of Batimaeus."* The event brought together students, and fellowship leaders for...

HON. BENDAL REAFFIRMS COMMITMENT TO EDUCATION, DONATE ROOFING MATERIALS to COMMUNITY SCHOOL 

HON. BENDAL REAFFIRMS COMMITMENT TO EDUCATION, DONATE ROOFING MATERIALS to COMMUNITY SCHOOL    18th August, 2025   The Honourable Member representing Langtang South Constituency in the 10th Plateau State House of Assembly, Hon. Bendal Nancwat, has once again demonstrated his commitment to education by providing roofing materials to Ka’atna’an Community in...

PRESS STATEMENT: OTUKPO CHAIRMAN HAILS GOV. ALIA FOR RESTORING WATER SUPPLY TO OTUKPO, DESCRIBES PROJECT AS LIFE-SAVING 

PRESS STATEMENT: OTUKPO CHAIRMAN HAILS GOV. ALIA FOR RESTORING WATER SUPPLY TO OTUKPO, DESCRIBES PROJECT AS LIFE-SAVING   Sunday, 17th August, 2025   The Executive Chairman of Otukpo Local Government, Hon. Prince Maxwell Ogiri, FCAI, has expressed deep gratitude to the Executive Governor of Benue State, His Excellency Rev. Fr. Dr....

The Importance of Voter Education in Nigeria’s 2027 Elections. By Monday Mariam Odufah

*The Importance of Voter Education in Nigeria's 2027 Elections* By Monday Mariam Odufah As Nigeria approaches the 2027 presidential election, voter education has become a critical component in ensuring the country's democratic growth. Many citizens, particularly those who are illiterate or semi-literate, rely heavily on information from questionable sources,...

BREAKING: Babatunde Fashola’s 2010 Bombshell on Tinubu Resurfaces—”Before “I Came into Power, No New Infrastructure Was Built in Lagos”

BREAKING: Babatunde Fashola’s 2010 Bombshell on Tinubu Resurfaces—"Before “I Came into Power, No New Infrastructure Was Built in Lagos” Former Lagos State Governor Babatunde Fashola made a bold statement back in 2010 when he said, “Before my administration came, there had been no new infrastructure built in Lagos...

THE GREAT ILLUSION: ESSAY ON RACISM AND TRIBALISM BY DR AUSTIN ORETTE

THE GREAT ILLUSION: ESSAY ON RACISM AND TRIBALISM BY DR AUSTIN ORETTE Empirical observations have led me to the notion that, in any society, the proponents of separatism are those who are least developed in consciousness. When the American South decided to secede, they were more backward and still...
Enable Notifications Yes No thanks