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Why you must have a proper knowledge of whom you want to marry by Jane Olowohunwa

AT LEAST, KNOW THIS…

(FOR OUR DAUGHTERS AND SONS)

You may not know the exact person you’ll marry, and that’s okay.

But at the very least, you should know the kind of person you’ll marry. Can I tell you why briefly?

This makes choosing a spouse much easier and prevents unnecessary mistakes.

When you know where you’re headed, it’s easier to arrive at your destination on time. Am I correct?

If you have no direction, you’ll keep wandering, and that’s how many people end up in relationships that drain them instead of fulfilling them.

Many people approach relationships with no clear direction, and that’s how they end up heartbroken or entangled with the wrong person.

It’s fine to have preferences, we all do. But beyond preferences, you need to have core values.

So let me ask you,… Don’t give me the answers, just be sincere with yourself.

What are the five most important qualities you desire in a spouse?

Can I take it further? Alright!

What are the three most important traits your spouse should have?

And then, if things got really tough, what is that one non-negotiable quality your partner must have?

See, when you have this level of clarity, it becomes easier to recognize the person you’ve been waiting for.

And let me say this, most times, they won’t come in the exact shape or form you expect. They may come in their development stage, and it’s easier to miss out during that period because they’ll most likely not look like it.

If your focus is only on physical appearance, it’s easy to miss out on the right one.

Love your life and destiny enough to desire what’s best for you.

Marriage is not just about appearance, don’t get me wrong, packaging is important. But tell me, what’s the use of a beautifully wrapped gift if the content inside is worthless?

Yes, attraction matters. Attraction may draw you in, but it’s who the person truly is that determines whether you’ll be happy in the long run.

If you choose solely based on packaging, without paying attention to content, you may end up regretting it.

Many have cried bitter tears because they were carried away by outward beauty or charm while ignoring the character flaws that later destroyed the marriage.

This applies to both men and women.

Don’t be deceived by charm alone. Beauty will fade, but character and godliness will stand the test of time.

Marry someone whose heart is right, not just someone whose face is fine. Why?

Because at the end of the day, it’s not beauty or handsomeness that builds a home, it’s wisdom, love, and godly values.

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